Why men date down?
By: http://www.myspace.com/sierraolivia
Lately I have been noticing many men dating "down"...meaning dating women not up to their social status...or social influence. My take on this relatively takes a personal stab in the side my general belief on this matter is the men who date down are pussy cheaters. These type of men are manipulative retards that are scared shitless to actually date a women on their corporate level. So, they date say waitresses or my favorite strippers...or college freshmen. They want a girl that is actually going to believe their bullshit and not ask any questions and be submissive...and for you guys out there...the girls like you for your occupations not your humor or your sensitive charm cause you don't have one ...cause they already know you have cheated on them...geez! IDIOTS! If one lets the man get away with shit he will continue to deceive at no mercy.
Ladies beware, these men like power, and control of the relationship thats why they date these woman that are stuck in some dead end job in some shit hole town...and they want someone they can manipulate and someone who is so enamored by ones occupations that they actually let the "occasional" cheating slide and someone who actually believes that they were just out with their guy friends when they didn't pick up the phone instead of trying to pick up some chicks on their recent trip out of town....give me a break. Men have to be one up on the woman they date at all cost!!!!! So, what does a semi-successful ivy league man have in common with a waitress or a stripper...who knows? I was once told he liked these types because they give him instant attention, that men don't have to work for the attention or affection of these type of women...you don't have to chase after them and all that stuff, they know what you do for a living and they just give you attention. What do their conversations entail? how materialistic woman may be because one would rather kill themselves before venturing out in public looking like a prostitute raccoon carrying a Liz Claiborne bag...I am much more of a Marc Jacobs fan and a blk skinny jeans type of a "cunt bitch"...classy language there sweetheart...
This is the deal, I recently got out of the typical sorry ass lying cheater episode pity relationship. One thing after another. The funny thing is, I turned out to be the quote "the psycho cunt"...nice terminology. Actually the problem was I was just too fucking smart and managed to catch him in every single lie to the point I scared the living shit out of that i think I gave him anxiety. When the lying starts everything is game, all ya have to do is simply open up the cell phone and catch the lying schmuck in some insubordinate late night phone calls, cause he is too big of a moron to erase them...I'm sure he learned his lesson by now and is smart enough now to cover his tracks by this time. A relationship that starts with lies and presumes lies is destine for failure. One can forgive, but one rarely forgets. It's funny how relationships like these go, cause at the end he said I was the one who ruined the relationship....ahhh, actually I think the day I found the strippers earing on the floor of his bedroom was what really ruined the relationship...or was it when he decided to immerse himself in hot tub fun with some classy strippers...or was it the day he actually took one out to lunch behind my back the day before he left the country for 2 weeks on a family vacation??? hmm...can't remember...among many other non-mentionable acts of betrayal.
So, here's what I think...men like control, power, money and sex...when they meet their match that is a female version of them, the woman that can look them in the eye and knows exactly when they are telling the truth or not. They know that there is no way in hell this woman (not girl) is going to put up with their shit,unfortunately I did for too long...because I let down my guard and partially do to temporarily insanity...ok, ok...I became a hopeless romantic and I thought I found someone who was strong enough to be with just one person and who wouldn't drop my heart and go behind my back for personal gratification regardless of the storm that it would cause. As they say "He causes the storm to be chased" Men want a submissive partner who holds back on asking questions like "where are you going?" "with who" blah...they want to do what they want, when they want, and who they want...then come back to you when it's convenient. Love is not playing the field until everyone else is sick of your shit, so you decide that you really like the poor girl that is still sticking around regardless of your indiscretions...pathetic.
The point is, I see men like this all the time...they are everywhere...NYC, Miami, LA, even in small towns.....then you have the woman who think they can change them...you can't change them....and when you feel it in your heart that you know they are cheating on you or something just isn't right, listen to your head, cause more than likely they are out banging (or trying to)someone they just met because they think you are dumb enough to never find out. Guys get bored...for instance look at Hugh Grant and Elizabeth Hurley...she is drop dead fucking gorgeous, and he cheats on her with a prostitute named Divine Brown??? whom, yes indeed was brown...but fucking hideous!!!!! Or Denise Richards and Charlie Sheen...again with a prostitute...and Denise again beautiful...Christie Brinklie and her asshole husband the list goes on....or again my favorite shocker Great Britain's IT girl Sienna Miller whom in my opinion is one of the most stunning people whom I have actually seen in per on while working with ELLE gets cheated on by Jude Law with the nanny...what a scumbag.
Once a cheat always a cheat. My ex actually told me quote "you are absolutely beautiful,but I cannot promise you that I can be faithful to you...I cannot break anymore promises to you" he went on to say that it wasn't just me that he doesn't think he is capable to be faithful to anyone...that he doesn't think he can get married. After he said that I fell to my knees, I was at work...I had to leave. I had to leave work many times among the turmoils of this relationship. I still care deeply about my ex, and I am positive that I always will and deep down I will always love this man because we did share some really true times together and all I want for him is to be happy, but I thank him for not getting back together with me because I know he would have hurt me again...and cheated...as he did the new girl he is dating, but she didn't seem to care or maybe she is in jaded by the visions of a future with this prominent occupation that he beholds...or a way out of the "ghetto". Behavior that is repetitive is just that doomed to repeat itself. Every single one of these men as a history of cheating...it wasn't a first I just don't think people understand how devastating it actually is. So, for many months I blamed myself...but ya know what...I am flippin hot...and I do not resemble a man. Thank god.
Relationships are tough, sleep with people you don't love and love the people you don't sleep with. Am I immature, of course...sometimes.....but what else is a cunt bitch supposed to do when she's not being materialistic and waiting for planes, trains and automobiles all day long. Look, love is overrated...it hurts...it's can be great at times....it can sting, it can heel, it can be deadly, it can make you cry an ocean of tears, it can make you feel that you can't go on, it can make you feel as if you have lost everything,it can kill you, it can make you breathe, it can make you feel alive again....love is the most powerful thing in this universe...so when you find it hold onto and never let it go and when it doesn't respect you or take your feelings into consideration...do yourself a favor and walk away and don't excuse the pain of a broken heart. I fell in love and I forgot who I was and whom I am supposed to become..but that time when it was good, it was the time of my life...as for now, I have no regrets...memories are made to be forgotten and some are meant to stay and the memories that are meant to stay were great ones because at one time I was madly in love.
My life has been glamorous as well as heart breaking...Nothing that I have ever said or written has been glorified....I went through many heartbreaks in NYC, even one absolutely gorgeous Calvin Klein model(by the way who went to JULIARD and brother went to Harvard LAW) who serenaded me with the Villon...problem was it was 8 am and I had a raging hangover... to the point that i couldn't get out of bed...to the point where I thought i lost it all or hi..or maybe just the idea of what I thought it would be like to pretend to be something that i was simply not. I have cried, I have shopped to the point that $1,500 bags have become a normal purchase to the point of not even batting an eyelash at the check out counter. My last relationship really opened my eyes, we went through a lot...I really realized an immature asshole was perhaps the love of my life...it was real, we were really in love, but all wrong for whatever reasons. As much as I blamed myself, it wasn't me...after all it wasn't me who pushed him into the arms of another etc. Now, I realize that...and today i laugh because he is sitting at a lame sports bar watching sports in the clothes that I bought for him still wondering what conch is....because NO it is NOT crab meat! And now i realize that i wasn't ready to be the wife of someone that overall would choose his friends, sports and more than likely not answer his phone when he goes to Jacksonville and try to hook up with girls and stay at random hotels, but say he stayed with his friends....I realized that i want someone who i deserve...someone who tells me that he can be faithful to me forever.
Basically, ladies...lets face it....you are crying now over some douche bag....trust me, the girl your ex is dating now has nothing on you it could be a lot worse!!!! she isn't prettier than you, she isn't smarter than you, she isn't more educated or wealthier than you etc and the best part is she is everything that your ex complained about for instance the too blonde and too much eyeliner ...look, Since my breakup I have met the most amazing people..I have spent 2 weeks in Puerto Rico, been to the Bahamas, new York, going to Italy, Greece, Miami, on Yachts, North Carolina having a blast for a month.....I have made tons of new friends and what has he done...and gone to numerous fashion events...Jimmy Choo, Saks 5th Avenue, Dolce & Gabbana , Tommy Hilfiger, The Hampton's..I gave into love and when it was good it was really good and he was part of my family and yes there are times when my cousins and I are walking on the beach picking shells and they ask if i miss him and I say "yes" I miss the good times....I miss the laughter and his family as well....but one day as long as i am patient the right one will come along...all the rest were all just practice;)...or maybe he will realize what they lost and they come back...ya never know what life has in store when it comes to matters of the heart...so go buy some shoes and look in the mirror....you are FABULOUS!!!!! and men like this just have a thing for girls they can tip...strippers and waitresses...it's a form of control....they love having the "one-up" on who they date so they date down! They know the poor waitress or the not so pretty girl isnt going to leave them no matter what they do...it's a sense of security to menlike this....so again...stop crying and start shopping! Live fast, die pretty and shop harder!!!! xoxo, S
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